After finding the quotation listed under “Something to Consider,” a new view of accountability opened up for me: What if accountability was truly a gift and a treasure, something we give each other with generosity and compassion – and maybe only if the person requests it? How would that change our attitude about accountability?

In an effort to be more rigorously accountable to myself, I know I have become much more aware of what I declare I am going to do, being as honest as I can about what I want to do, yet being careful about the deadlines I give myself. Are they realistic? Are they accurate? Do I give myself enough time to do something? Will anyone, besides myself, notice if I complete or don’t complete the task? What influence does that have on my statement, on my progress, on my results?

This pretty much applies to commitments I make to other people, too. Am I realistic about the deadlines? What, exactly, am I being asked to do? Is it in alignment with my values? Are my responsibilities clear? Measureable? Doable? Do I say “yes,” just to please them or because it’s something I am committed to and interested in?

Often, when people ask us to do something, or take responsibility, it’s a good idea to “practice the pause.” Take enough time to think about whether or not you actually want to do the task, report the result, be accountable for what happens. Remember, their lack of planning does not create an emergency for you. Take the time that you need to answer accurately, according to what works for you. Ask for a minute, or to get back to them within 24 hours, or however long you need, before accepting accountability for what they are requesting, if that is even something you want to do.

Being held accountable by others can often feel like our feet are being held to the fire. Getting results on someone else’s timetable, according to their priorities, maybe even in the style they prefer, can create a lot of stress for us. Make sure it’s something you really want to do.

Being accountable to yourself can be even more difficult sometimes, so be sure to give generosity and compassion to yourself, too, or celebration and acknowledgement, whenever you hold yourself accountable.

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